No one can anticipate how a person will feel or react after the death of a child and the death can affect parents, siblings, other family members and friends in different ways. Grieving can last a long time and for many people may never come to an end. Close friends and family are a good source of support.
Even if you’re not sure what to say, reaching out to the family is helpful. Simple gestures like a text, an email, or a card are some ways of showing that you care. Hearing “I’ve been thinking about you” can be a source of comfort and strength.
Helping to keep sibling’s routines as normal as possible can also be a great way to show your support. Offering to take them to their after-school activities is an easy way to assist.
The family will sometimes need to talk about their experiences, and other times they will choose not to. Watch for signs if they want to talk, have a distraction or just want some quiet company.
Be respectful of the family, their home, their routine, and their need for privacy. It is a good idea to check with the family before visiting. Be prepared that it might not be a good day for visitors, or they might be too busy.
Don’t be discouraged if they ask you not to visit. Every day is different for families who are grieving. Stay engaged with the family and continue to offer support.
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